Polina Shabarova | Mindset and Resilience Coaching

Have you looked into the eyes of those children who saw and experienced the most unimaginable things? It's hard to meet their eyes. They are like tightly closed shells, with no trust left in the world and other humans. Because of inhumane things that have happened to them. Ukraine has thousands of those children who saw rape, torture, their families killed in front of their eyes, their homes bombed and destroyed because of the full-scale russian invasion. The only way to get those children back to life and heal their trauma is through mindful and purposeful therapy.  Also, having a stable adult around who could hold the space for them and create a safe environment. You can see those little humans transform and get from that closed shell back to the world, smiling and learning to trust again. To read the stories of healing and look into the eyes of those kids, check out Gen.Ukrainian initiative, a one-of-a-kind rehabilitation camp in Western Ukraine that does wonders.

Do you feel guilty, ashamed, or wrong for being not okay?  Do you feel that you feeling down, stressed, apathetic, anxious, or depressed makes other people embarrassed? Have you noticed that in our society (social media is a great example), it’s a kind of a mauve tone to share the bitter truth about the world with the world?  War/ hunger/ natural disaster/ poverty… the explicit images and straightforward words get blocked,  your accounts are banned,  and it seems that the world wants to just keep on going,  not knowing the truth, just to stay comfortable. I know it may feel like a burden too hard to carry.  I am Ukrainian. I know what I am talking about. It’s hard to look a homeless person in the eye,  as it's hard to look at the pictures of people shot in the streets with tied arms. hard to see those hungry children’s faces from Africa even in the pictures. Hard do learn what hideous monsters people can be. Rape, torture, decapitation, with all the s...

A client of mine was in the midst of a divorce, stuck with her immigration status, risking being deported. Lonely, stressed, and depressed. We explored the depth of that loneliness, and it echoed right back with more familiar depths from her childhood. Her grandfather died. She felt lonely.  Lonely, dealing with grief and pain on her own.  Lonely, dealing with the world on her own.  Lonely, dealing with divorce now all on her own. The same pain that circled back. Once we released that pressure with Satori Healing exercise, it lost its charge and stopped draining her energy.  The most rewarding result was her feedback afterward:  -  I believe it was the first time I’ve ever come up with new goals and desires for myself, and not just for the people around.

What makes me really satisfied with my coaching work is helping women who come to me mentally distressed get results like these after just the first session: - Our time together with Polina helped me regain my ‘home’ within and find the exact image that makes me feel fulfilled, calm, and confident. Our session was like a real talk with a friend - understanding and accepting. I felt very calm and safe. Now I have a beautiful and effective tool to harmonize and heal my being. It’s hard to express this experience verbally. - Inessa - I’m sure you remember in what depressed state I came to you. I was experiencing permanent anxiety all day long. After our sessions, where I decided to go into my most agonizing fears, my anxiety started to fade day after day. Even though I’ve tried different coaches and healers, I’ve never met such an approach. Now I can say I’m getting better. I am so grateful for your work with me. - Olga - After our session with Polina, it’s not so scary for me now to come...

If our child doesn’t want to listen to our advice, then what they need now is something more than our rational suggestions. What is it? I'm going to tell you in a moment. But first: it can be hard to resist insisting on feeding our advice to the kids, even though it's obvious they don't want it. Why hard? Because the same moment we are dealing with a whirlpool of our feelings in response to what we hear and see: He needs my help right away! He is uncontrollable! How is he/she actually gonna live with such reactions to life events? I’m a useless parent: failed to teach, to protect, to prevent… She is speaking my mother’s/ father’s words (that used to hurt me)! She/ he is always being rude! I can’t stand it! (I need to make him/her stop at any cost) How dare he leave and shut the door in front of me?! What am I gonna do if she shuts down now and I lose contact with her? I’m a bad mother/ father! ...and the list is endless. (I’ve gone over every reaction that I personally know...

A new story about the way Satori Healing works and a life hack on how not to give your power away. I've had an argument with my husband recently, in which I was trying to explain to him 'how it all happened'. The foundation is a tragicomic routine story of how the kids' fantasies can mislead the adults. It's a long story and not the actual point of the article. The real point I'd love to get across is the mechanics of how such conflicts are processed by our psychics and what are the possible outcomes. ...In the middle of the conversation with my husband, I was literally feeling how the earth was slipping from under my feet, as all my arguments were futile. I couldn't find the strength to keep my balance: I got angry that he didn't believe me. So automatically I drained all my power in that well and places it in someone else's hands. Half a day later, when I eventually managed to pull myself together and look inside the way we do it in Satori Healing,...

What do religious cults, addictive shopping and extreme ambitions about our kids' future have in common? They all are ways to shut down our emotional pain. Of any kind. Our mind protects us from feeling pain by looking for new illusions that seem to feel better: we feel unnoticed - buy new heels - start feeling more attractive we feel small and weak - join a religious cult or any movement - start feeling strong and important, a part of a serious mission we feel not loved - invest all ourselves into putting a child into Yale, or making him/her a tennis champion ('cause "they are gonna thank us for that") or working our butts off in our work/business - start buying into the illusion of feeling more valued and loved (at least for a while). No matter what model of pain vs 'magic pill' you have, the mechanics is the same: there is no way to escape pain by running away from it and trying to numb it. The only way to release your pain is to face it and accept it. It g...