How to accept what you can't change

 1/ Acceptance is the key to inner peace when dealing with things you cannot physically prevent or change.

2/ It's essential to focus on your best response to the inevitable, rather than wasting your resource worrying about if sth bad happens or not;

why it's happening;

or why it has happened to you.

How to do it?

3/ Identify your emotional reaction to the event.

In the present cocktail of feelings, find the strongest one and name it:

- I feel ... (scared/lonely/lost/helpless/

crashed/dead inside, etc.)

4/ See yourself living this feeling through, both from the inside and outside.

Be the hero and the observer at the same time.

5/ When you catch your biggest current pain, stay in it.

Let yourself live it through.

Don't hide or turn away from it.

6/ If done correctly, the pain will start fading away while you're observing + experiencing it.

It might take from several moments to several minutes. 

7/ Once you feel some relief, relax.

Do not try to replace hurt with pleasure.

Enjoy the space you've created and just let it be for a while.

8/ This is the first major step to gaining peace of mind in your suffering from a situation you can't change.

9/ Acceptance of a very stressful or tragic event comes from accepting the pain that it causes you and from watching this pain closely.