Running away from pain? Stop here.

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What do religious cults, addictive shopping and extreme ambitions about our kids' future have in common? They all are ways to shut down our emotional pain. Of any kind.

Our mind protects us from feeling pain by looking for new illusions that seem to feel better:

  • we feel unnoticed - buy new heels - start feeling more attractive
  • we feel small and weak - join a religious cult or any movement - start feeling strong and important, a part of a serious mission
  • we feel not loved - invest all ourselves into putting a child into Yale, or making him/her a tennis champion ('cause "they are gonna thank us for that") or working our butts off in our work/business - start buying into the illusion of feeling more valued and loved (at least for a while).

No matter what model of pain vs 'magic pill' you have, the mechanics is the same: there is no way to escape pain by running away from it and trying to numb it.

The only way to release your pain is to face it and accept it.

It goes kind of against the 'positive thinking' trend.

But you can't actually treat a deep abscess by applying delicious whipped cream and sprinkling it with rose petals. You need it opened to physically release pus from under the skin.

The same works for infected emotional tissue - get it out to let the cleared wound heal.

The best method I've personally experienced so far and then got trained in is Satori Healing.

It gets you to stop running away, face your pain and process it in a special way. Sounds simple, but does unimaginable wonders.

If you're interested to try, just reach out to me.

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