Polina Shabarova | Mindset and Resilience Coaching

  1/ Acceptance is the key to inner peace when dealing with things you cannot physically prevent or change. 2/ It's essential to focus on your best response to the inevitable, rather than wasting your resource worrying about if sth bad happens or not; why it's happening; or why it has happened to you. How to do it? 3/ Identify your emotional reaction to the event. In the present cocktail of feelings, find the strongest one and name it: - I feel ... (scared/lonely/lost/helpless/ crashed/dead inside, etc.) 4/ See yourself living this feeling through, both from the inside and outside. Be the hero and the observer at the same time. 5/ When you catch your biggest current pain, stay in it. Let yourself live it through. Don't hide or turn away from it. 6/ If done correctly, the pain will start fading away while you're observing + experiencing it. It might take from several moments to several minutes.  7/ Once you feel some relief, relax. Do not try to replace hurt with pleasur...

Have you looked into the eyes of those children who saw and experienced the most unimaginable things? It's hard to meet their eyes. They are like tightly closed shells, with no trust left in the world and other humans. Because of inhumane things that have happened to them. Ukraine has thousands of those children who saw rape, torture, their families killed in front of their eyes, their homes bombed and destroyed because of the full-scale russian invasion. The only way to get those children back to life and heal their trauma is through mindful and purposeful therapy.  Also, having a stable adult around who could hold the space for them and create a safe environment. You can see those little humans transform and get from that closed shell back to the world, smiling and learning to trust again. To read the stories of healing and look into the eyes of those kids, check out Gen.Ukrainian initiative, a one-of-a-kind rehabilitation camp in Western Ukraine that does wonders.

Do you feel guilty, ashamed, or wrong for being not okay?  Do you feel that you feeling down, stressed, apathetic, anxious, or depressed makes other people embarrassed? Have you noticed that in our society (social media is a great example), it’s a kind of a mauve tone to share the bitter truth about the world with the world?  War/ hunger/ natural disaster/ poverty… the explicit images and straightforward words get blocked,  your accounts are banned,  and it seems that the world wants to just keep on going,  not knowing the truth, just to stay comfortable. I know it may feel like a burden too hard to carry.  I am Ukrainian. I know what I am talking about. It’s hard to look a homeless person in the eye,  as it's hard to look at the pictures of people shot in the streets with tied arms. hard to see those hungry children’s faces from Africa even in the pictures. Hard do learn what hideous monsters people can be. Rape, torture, decapitation, with all the s...

A client of mine was in the midst of a divorce, stuck with her immigration status, risking being deported. Lonely, stressed, and depressed. We explored the depth of that loneliness, and it echoed right back with more familiar depths from her childhood. Her grandfather died. She felt lonely.  Lonely, dealing with grief and pain on her own.  Lonely, dealing with the world on her own.  Lonely, dealing with divorce now all on her own. The same pain that circled back. Once we released that pressure with Satori Healing exercise, it lost its charge and stopped draining her energy.  The most rewarding result was her feedback afterward:  -  I believe it was the first time I’ve ever come up with new goals and desires for myself, and not just for the people around.

What makes me really satisfied with my coaching work is helping women who come to me mentally distressed get results like these after just the first session: - Our time together with Polina helped me regain my ‘home’ within and find the exact image that makes me feel fulfilled, calm, and confident. Our session was like a real talk with a friend - understanding and accepting. I felt very calm and safe. Now I have a beautiful and effective tool to harmonize and heal my being. It’s hard to express this experience verbally. - Inessa - I’m sure you remember in what depressed state I came to you. I was experiencing permanent anxiety all day long. After our sessions, where I decided to go into my most agonizing fears, my anxiety started to fade day after day. Even though I’ve tried different coaches and healers, I’ve never met such an approach. Now I can say I’m getting better. I am so grateful for your work with me. - Olga - After our session with Polina, it’s not so scary for me now to come...