Polina Shabarova | Mindset and Resilience Coaching

If our child doesn’t want to listen to our advice, then what they need now is something more than our rational suggestions. What is it? I'm going to tell you in a moment. But first: it can be hard to resist insisting on feeding our advice to the kids, even though it's obvious they don't want it. Why hard? Because the same moment we are dealing with a whirlpool of our feelings in response to what we hear and see: He needs my help right away! He is uncontrollable! How is he/she actually gonna live with such reactions to life events? I’m a useless parent: failed to teach, to protect, to prevent… She is speaking my mother’s/ father’s words (that used to hurt me)! She/ he is always being rude! I can’t stand it! (I need to make him/her stop at any cost) How dare he leave and shut the door in front of me?! What am I gonna do if she shuts down now and I lose contact with her? I’m a bad mother/ father! ...and the list is endless. (I’ve gone over every reaction that I personally know...

A new story about the way Satori Healing works and a life hack on how not to give your power away. I've had an argument with my husband recently, in which I was trying to explain to him 'how it all happened'. The foundation is a tragicomic routine story of how the kids' fantasies can mislead the adults. It's a long story and not the actual point of the article. The real point I'd love to get across is the mechanics of how such conflicts are processed by our psychics and what are the possible outcomes. ...In the middle of the conversation with my husband, I was literally feeling how the earth was slipping from under my feet, as all my arguments were futile. I couldn't find the strength to keep my balance: I got angry that he didn't believe me. So automatically I drained all my power in that well and places it in someone else's hands. Half a day later, when I eventually managed to pull myself together and look inside the way we do it in Satori Healing,...

What do religious cults, addictive shopping and extreme ambitions about our kids' future have in common? They all are ways to shut down our emotional pain. Of any kind. Our mind protects us from feeling pain by looking for new illusions that seem to feel better: we feel unnoticed - buy new heels - start feeling more attractive we feel small and weak - join a religious cult or any movement - start feeling strong and important, a part of a serious mission we feel not loved - invest all ourselves into putting a child into Yale, or making him/her a tennis champion ('cause "they are gonna thank us for that") or working our butts off in our work/business - start buying into the illusion of feeling more valued and loved (at least for a while). No matter what model of pain vs 'magic pill' you have, the mechanics is the same: there is no way to escape pain by running away from it and trying to numb it. The only way to release your pain is to face it and accept it. It g...